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On January 1st I published a blog called “Risky Business”.   I shared MY 35 year pornography addiction.   It’s two months later and things are going well.  Is my addiction gone?  Am I temptation free?   Well…it’s complicated.  As long as I am alive I will struggle with something.   Pride and Anger have yet to ride off into the distance of my emotional landscape.  I have enjoyed a couple months of freedom from pornography and masturbation.  My addiction has been surrendered to Christ, but satan still tempts me with aspects of SSA that have very little to do with sex and more to do with satan attacking the very foundation of masculinity in my life.

My saving grace has been consistent, daily bible reading and prayer.  Yeah, who knew?  Long gone are the sad pitiful “end of the day”, after you brush your teeth, right before you fall asleep “devotions” of my past.   This was time set aside specifically for God.  After all, some days I gave porn 4-6 hours.  Why not give God a few moments in my day.   Every bible teacher, mentor and Christian friend I have ever known has told me to read the word.  I heard them, but I never HEARD them.   I began to see my need to for daily interactions with God’s word.  I would never miss a physical meal, yet my spiritual man was starved and frail from lack of nourishment.   God finally allowed me to experience the weight of my sin.

Matthew 5:28 “But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”  Cue the ‘punch to the gut’.  This verse haunted me.   I left homosexuality behind 13 years ago.  Exactly 3 years more than I lived as a gay man.  Yet, every time I masturbated to pornographic images, I had committed adultery in God’s eyes.  I could be okay with that and call myself a Christian.  The world says that pornography hurts no one.  I don’t live according to popular opinion.  My God calls it adultery.  Therefore, we had a problem.  I shared my problem to bring my own darkness into the light.   It was an act of obedience to God rather than a confession.com moment.

Hebrews 4:13 “Nothing in all creation is hidden from God’s sight. Everything is uncovered and laid bare before the eyes of him to whom we must give account.”

Psalm 32:3  “When I kept silent, my bones wasted away through my groaning all day long.  4 For day and night your hand was heavy on me; my strength was sapped as in the heat of summer.  5 Then I acknowledged my sin to you and did not cover up my iniquity.  I said, ‘I will confess my transgressions to the Lord.’  And you forgave the guilt of my sin.”

Proverbs 28:13 “Whoever conceals their sins does not prosper, but the one who confesses and renounces them finds mercy.”

After writing Risky Business, something broke in my spirit.  That level of confession catapulted me to a new level in my Christian walk.  I didn’t care who read my words.  God is responsible for my promotion and livelihood, not man.  I needed to be the kind of pastor that stands before my students and my enemies honest, open and blameless, willing to admit my struggles, before they become everyone else’s stumbling block.

Are you stuck in a downward spiral my friend?  No matter your sexuality, do you live a secret life in porn?  Jesus can indeed break your chains and bring peace and freedom to areas of your life that seem hopeless.  The bible says that everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved.  I believe that has dual meanings.  If you are a Christian living under constant condemnation from the enemy, free yourself today.  Confess your faults to a pastor, a Christian counselor or a Christian friend.  Don’t let the enemy steal one more moment of the life that God designed for you and Him.

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